After 25 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, and going through my own divorce, I felt I had to take action to change the toxic social paradigm around divorce. I use my speaking and analysis skills to foster conversation about WHY divorce has such blame and shame associated with it, and to change society's beliefs about divorce one family at a time. It is not easy to change a social norm that is so ingrained in the collective consciousness. However, if we believe that the family is one of the building blocks of our society, then we have an obligation to lessen the trauma and toxicity of the divorce process.