Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at Shida Marriage Counseling Inc.
Answered 10 months ago
1. Certainly, it is possible for a serial cheater to change their behavior. However, the difficulty lies in having the motivation and readiness to create lasting change. Basic Behavioral Therapy theory states that as long as they are continuing to benefit in some way from this behavior (serial cheating) it will be hard to quit that behavior. The steps to change would be to 1. Acknowledge this is a problem that is harming themselves and others. 2. Get individual therapy to address the root of the issue. 3. Be in community that holds them accountable and exit communities/relationships which encourage this behavior. #2: The advice I would give to someone who suspects their partner is a serial cheater is to get professional help. Getting an objective assessment of any childhood/past traumas, attachment styles, dysfunctional patterns, and assessing for IPV (Intimate Partner Violence) is necessary before making an informed, healthy decision for yourself. In the meantime, I would also get a checkup with your OBGYN to protect your reproductive health as well. Yuki Shida Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California MA, Marriage and Family Therapy 2017 from Hope International University in Fullerton, California Years of Experience 8 Bio: Yuki Shida is a Japanese American Marriage and Family Therapist in California. Yuki owns a group practice specializing in Asian American generational trauma and family issues. Yuki is a Certified EMDR therapist, Clinical Supervisor, and Domestic Violence Counselor. You can find her on Instagram at @therapy_with_yuki
Psychology Consultant, Life Coach, Founder at Life Architekture
Answered 10 months ago
1 - Yes, meaningful change is possible, but it requires genuine willingness and consistent, intentional effort. The most important step is sincere, in depth self reflection to clearly understand and acknowledge the underlying motivations, emotional gaps, or patterns driving their behavior. Proactive accountability is also key. This means being openly honest with their partner, transparent, and establishing clear and healthy relationship boundaries. 2 - Always prioritize trusting your intuition, and avoid drawing assumptions or making accusations without proof. Have an honest and calm conversation about your concerns by sharing your feelings and clearly communicating how their behavior impacts you emotionally. Also, be prepared for them to become defensive or deny it, so it is important to set clear personal boundaries beforehand to protect your own well being. Full Bio Profile - https://www.stylecraze.com/reviewer/bayu-prihandito