Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Founder, CEO at Thrive Therapy Studio
Answered 4 months ago
While I have observed some generational differences in skills, rather than viewing this as a generational deficit in common sense, it's more productive to examine the developmental factors that shape practical decision-making skills in young people. In my work as a child psychologist, I've observed that children's ability to handle life's challenges and develop resilience is significantly influenced by their parents' mental health and parenting approach. When parents model empathy, mindfulness, and strong personal boundaries, children are better equipped to develop the practical reasoning skills often described as common sense. The environment young people grow up in plays a crucial role in building these capabilities and parents can best support these skills by encouraging independence, setting boundaries, and utilizing cause and effect discipline strategies that support each child's unique needs and give them feedback about their impact in the world and encourage problem solving.
That whole thing about kids lacking common sense? It's usually just their brains still developing and all the social pressure they're under. When rules are unclear or they're anxious, their judgment gets fuzzy. They often just need someone to listen and give clear guidance. If their choices could cause harm, you have to set firm boundaries, but stay calm. Help them think through what happened. It works better than yelling.
Look, teenage brains are still under construction. That's why they do dumb stuff sometimes, not because they're stupid. I've noticed it gets worse when the adults around them are inconsistent or there are no real consequences. And yeah, their friends matter a lot. When safety's on the line, you need firm but fair rules. Kids actually thrive when they know the boundaries and get praised for making good choices.
Double Board Certified Child, Adolescent & Adult Psychiatrist at Dr. Peyman Tashkandi
Answered 4 months ago
In my practice as a child and adult psychiatrist, I have noticed something significant: what often is called a "lack of common sense" in my young patients is rarely about their intelligence or their cognitive abilities. More often, it is about the environment their minds are growing up in. Today's adolescents and young adults are being raised on their phones and are being trained by their own self- fulfilling algorithms. Their social media feeds are curated, filtered and carefully chosen algorithmically to reinforce the psychological bubble that they live in. This leads them to repeatedly see the same opinions, ideas and analyses, many of which are not even true, but simply reinforce what they already believe. This eventually shapes their understand of what is "normal" to them. Social media has created a psychological environment that is not only often not real, but also extreme. The reason is simple: contents that gets attention online is designed to attract it, and more extreme opinions usually lead to more clicks. In my practice, I have been helping the patients understand the psychology behind the content they consume and the invisible forces that shape their opinions. I help them build perspective taking skills by considering the opposite of their own views through an exercise where they advocate for the opposite perspective. This allows them to place themselves in the shoes of the other side and understand, or at least attempt to understand, a different point of view.
People doubt that young people have sufficient judgment skills because technology advances quickly while society undergoes rapid transformations. People who lack judgment skills base their decisions on unfamiliar values and different priorities. Young people use digital reasoning methods which prove ineffective when dealing with physical human interactions. People who experience high levels of stress and uncertainty while lacking life experience tend to develop this impression. The problem exists as multiple elements rather than being a characteristic of any particular age group. Young people fail to develop practical reasoning abilities because they spend most of their time online while having less opportunity for unstructured play. Young people face difficulties in managing their impulses because they must act right away during their time in public areas. Students require particular instructions from their teachers and parents to develop their ability to make independent choices. The unstable environment creates more impact on behavior than individual characteristics do. The way they view risk and responsibility affects how each factor influences their behavior. The solution needs to create organized systems instead of giving essential feedback. People understand their responsibilities better when they receive direct and particular instructions about their tasks. People need simplified safety procedures with supervision instead of receiving public criticism. People acquire new skills through the process of rewarding themselves after they make successful choices. People learn better long-term skills through peaceful demonstrations of correct actions instead of through aggressive interventions.