For a long time, I focused too much on what I couldn't wear instead of what actually made me feel good. I'd think, I can't wear tall boots because being a dancer my calves won't fit in them or skinny jeans are a no-go because I always wear runners due to my arthritis. My mindset was all about limitations, and honestly, it wasn't fun. It's not what fashion and style is about. Fashion is about embracing your truest self and adding a crown. I realized I was approaching my personal style all wrong. When I looked at photos of myself that I loved, they weren't about a specific trend or piece I was wearing; they were about how I felt. I loved pictures where I was dancing, so I started choosing fabrics that flowed and moved with me. I loved how I looked when I was genuinely happy, so I gravitated toward prints and colours that carried that same energy. Instead of fixating on what didn't work, I leaned into what did. That shift completely changed my style. Now, I choose outfits based on how they make me feel. Fashion should be about embracing yourself, not dressing around insecurities. Now, when I work with clients, I make sure not to put too much emphasis on what they don't like. Instead, I ask them what they do like. What makes them feel like their best self? What outfits have made them feel strong, radiant, or most at home in their skin? This approach isn't just about just loving your body; it's about loving yourself, your energy, and the presence you bring into a room. Because at the end of the day, what matters most isn't whether an outfit follows the so-called "rules" of dressing for your shape. It's about how you make people feel, how you carry yourself, and the confidence that comes from embracing the things that make you uniquely you.
I think I'll be a little more specific and not just say "the entirety of the 2000s." The one thing I had to learn the hard way was not considering my body shape when choosing what to buy and wear. Wearing clothes that don't flatter me at all just because they are trendy is not something I'll do again any time soon. So, now, when a new fashion trend sweeps Instagram, I don't immediately jump on it. I only buy clothes I feel good and comfortable in. This has made me more confident, and my style reflects that.
In the world of fashion, I once made the glaring mistake of pairing heavy winter boots with a light summer dress. It was a bold attempt at mixing seasons, inspired by seeing various celebrities try something similar, but unfortunately, I missed the mark by a long mile. The boots were chunky, dark, and totally overpowering against the breezy, floral fabric of the dress. At a garden party, amidst the sea of well-matched outfits, mine felt comically out of place. This fashion faux pas taught me the importance of balancing an outfit not just in terms of color and texture, but also in considering the contextual appropriateness of the pieces involved. From that day on, I've learned to temper my adventurous spirit with a bit of practical thinking when experimenting with my style. Now, I always make sure that my outfit components complement each other in style and function, ensuring that I feel both confident and contextually appropriate wherever I go. Remember, sometimes the best way to find your true style is through some trial and error.