Data Scientist, Digital Marketing & Leadership Consultant for Startups at Consorte Marketing
Answered 2 years ago
If you're skilled and on top of your deadlines but have challenges with a difficult client, it probably means that they have a poor leadership style. Often this comes from the belief that no one can do the job as well as they can. They may even be right, but this mindset will inhibit their growth, and will make life hard for you. This belief stems from insecurity, so the first thing you need to do is make them feel secure in themselves, while you build trust. Try to find areas of agreement and begin there. Give them strong support for good ideas and don't dwell too much on the negative. Document everything and get approval prior to executing anything. Basically, make most things "their idea" even if you feel like they're your idea. Then as you build trust by delivering what they want, start making small suggestions for what you know they need, where you can bring your own skills and experience. Start small, get some wins and over time, you can win many of them over.
Many issues arise between clients and freelancers simply from not setting clear expectations with each other at the beginning of the relationship. Create an ongoing list of questions you ask every client when you first onboard them, like timing, price, revision expectations, and payment schedule. If you're in the middle of a difficult relationship, ask clear and direct questions to gain clarity on what the client wants. Ultimately, you're in a customer service role so try to delight your clients. But if things aren't working out even after trying to communicate more clearly, it may be time to move on!
Keep thorough records of every order and every conversation. Over the last decade of freelancing, I've learned how to spot difficult clients "in the wild" before I work with them. I like to think I've dodged a few bullets over the years, but not all of them. One thing I've learned to do is to keep a paper trail with every client, especially those that are showing red flags as a difficult client. Be specific and overly clear in your communications. Take detailed notes you can refer back to. If a client comes back and says something wasn't done or they weren't satisfied, you'll have evidence that your work aligns with their requests or have at least attempted to clarify the project. You can also point out any extra requests that weren't part of the original work order in case they push back against any additional charges. Never leave anything off the record.
Over communicate with them! This might be hard at first, but I've found that it helps me triple check that I am addressing their verbalized (and non-verbalized) needs. As an accountant, I've had my fair share of difficult clients. When I have one that is upset about their tax bill for example, I make sure to over communicate and provide as much data and references for their weariness as possible. Approaching their discomfort from a fact based angle helps me make sure that I'm staying level headed while addressing the clients concerns and frustrations in a more organized way. I make sure to explain line by line how their income changed year over year and how that affects their tax rate and therefore their tax bill. Sometimes giving more context helps difuse aggressiveness because it could be coming from a place of mere confusion and not actual anger.
One challenging client at Click Intelligence had a habit of frequently changing project scopes, leading to delays and increased costs. Rather than getting frustrated or pushing back aggressively, we adopted the "Collaborative Feedback Loop" method. We arranged a face-to-face meeting with the client to discuss our mutual goals. During this meeting, we used visual aids to show the impact of constant changes on project timelines and outcomes. We then co-developed a "Change Request Process," setting clear guidelines for scope alterations, and illustrating how a more structured approach would benefit both parties. The result? The client appreciated our proactive and collaborative approach. By framing it as a joint effort towards a common goal, rather than a confrontation, we strengthened our relationship and streamlined project workflows. In essence, open communication and seeking collaborative solutions turned a challenging client relationship into a productive partnership.
Setting expectations is key. Sometimes, we learn this the hard way and it's too late because the client has gotten difficult. This is when communication is key. Why is the client difficult? If it's unrealistic expectations, let's remind them what we agreed on when we both signed the agreement. (You do have an agreement, right?) Sometimes they cross boundaries and reach out at all hours of the day and night. This is when you politely share your working hours and when they can expect to hear back from you and why. Remember, your clients are not your bosses. They are your clients. Be firm, but kind in sharing parts of your business model and operations. It's your business. You started it and run it for a reason. Don't let a difficult client change that. Clear and honest communication is key. When that doesn't work, it's better to part ways. Your mental health shouldn't take a hit because someone isn't a fit. It happens.
I’ve had my fair share of difficult clients while working as a freelance writer. However, there’s one method I use that usually does the trick. In my experience, open and proactive communication has proven to be crucial for managing difficult clients. Misunderstandings and conflicts tend to be the result of a lack of effective communication, so when dealing with a client who is hard to please, I take extra care to listen to their feedback, ask clarifying questions, and go over their expectations in detail. Showing that you’re taking their concerns seriously instead of dismissing them helps build trust, which has the power to drastically improve a strained business relationship.
I tend to refer to difficult clients has being "challenging", and most of time challenging clients need both close management but also honestly. Some challenging clients either don't fully understand what they're paying for or they're just trying to push you for the maximum results. Plus, they also tend to react well from you being honest and forthright in the opposite direction. Keep the conversation flowing and let them know everything you've done and why. In my field I always send clients a monthly overview of progress which keeps minds at rest, as well as making sure there's regular communication. But I also know when to push back and tell a client if they're being unreasonable or I don't like what they're saying. Providing I'm doing a good job and have been honest throughout, 99% of the time this calms everything down and if anything the client is thankful for it.
Problem-solving and Finding Solutions: When faced with challenging clients, it's essential to adopt a problem-solving mindset rather than dwelling on the issues. Focus on finding viable solutions that align with both the client's needs and your own professional expertise. Example: I encountered a client who consistently changed their mind about the project scope. Instead of getting frustrated, I presented them with a comprehensive analysis of the potential consequences of these frequent changes. By highlighting the impact on the project timeline and budget, I was able to help the client understand the necessity of sticking to initial agreements. This approach resulted in a more structured approach to modifications, allowing for smoother progress.
When you're faced with a tough client, it's important to stay calm and caring while really listening to what they're upset about. Figure out the main problem, collect facts, and think about ways to fix it. Choose the best solutions that make sense for the client and explain them honestly. If you can, let the client help decide what to do. Offer a good solution to their problem and put it into action quickly. Check back with them to make sure they're happy, and learn from the situation so you can handle similar things better next time.
Active Listening and Empathy: One of the most effective strategies for handling difficult clients is to practice active listening and demonstrate empathy. By actively listening to their concerns, frustrations, and expectations, you can gain a deeper understanding of their perspective. This allows you to tailor your approach to meet their needs and establish a stronger rapport. Additionally, showing empathy by acknowledging their emotions and concerns can help defuse tension and build trust. Example: During a project with a particularly demanding client, I noticed they seemed increasingly frustrated with the progress. Instead of becoming defensive, I actively listened to their concerns and frustrations. By acknowledging their frustrations and empathizing with their desire for a successful outcome, I was able to build a stronger relationship and find a mutually beneficial solution.
I'm an UpWork pro. I got my SEO career started on UpWork as a freelancer, my second month I earned over $6000 Now I actively hire on UpWork on a weekly basis. Here are my stats from my hiring profile. $63K total spent 153 hires, 9 active I know what it's like to handle difficult clients, and I've BEEN a difficult client. Sometimes expectations just don't line up, as we speak I just told a freelancer that we might need to cancel the contract. But instead of just saying "THIS IS TERRIBLE, WE'RE DONE!" I always offer a way out. In this instance I simply said, "This writing is really bad. If we don't find another writer and give this another shot I'm going to have to cancel the contract". Thats it, give them another angle to attack the problem from before shutting down communications.
Offer incentives that matter. The truth is, when a client is being difficult, it often stems from their expectations not aligning with reality. Offering incentives can help bridge that gap. It shows them that you value their business and are willing to go the extra mile to make things right. And contrary to popular opinion, your incentives don't have to be grand gestures. Sometimes it's as simple as offering a discount on their next purchase, providing additional services, or throwing in a bonus product. It's a way of saying, "Hey, we hear you, and we want to make this better for you."
Many clients don’t care how professional behavior you use on the table, they just want solutions to their problems. To handle a difficult client you should offer solutions. Propose practical solutions by addressing the client’s concerns. You can also present some options to resolve the issue. I believe no one wants to waste their time on unnecessary discussion. So, if you offer solutions useful for the client, you can easily handle him. Once you have succeeded, put forth what exactly you were trying to say, now the client will listen to you. Don’t worry, this type of situation occur once in a blue moon. You can easily deal with annoyed customers with the right approach and offering solutions is one of them. Let me clear it up with one example. If your customer is facing a problem in organizing a task, offer him help to do it faster. But you have to decide on which task to handle with your intellect.
Patience: The Virtue that Saves the Day: Patience became my secret weapon when dealing with difficult clients. Rather than becoming frustrated or defensive when faced with challenges, I embraced a calm and collected approach. I understood that Rome wasn't built in a day, and resolving issues with difficult clients would take time. By maintaining a patient demeanor, I was able to de-escalate tense situations, find common ground, and navigate through obstacles, ultimately finding solutions that satisfied both parties.
I ask them to specify what their needs are. Part of doing business (especially when it comes to freelancing) is learning how to deal with different types of people, and sometimes clients can be difficult to work with. One way I have found effective in dealing with such difficult clients is breaking down the communication barrier by asking specific, direct questions - what their needs are, what they expect the outcome to be, and how soon they need it. Documenting the conversation and the agreed-upon outcome also helps in managing expectations, whether or not I am dealing with a difficult client. From these, I measure their expectations against what is realistically achievable and make sure I clearly communicate what I am and am not able to do, setting the terms of the agreement. This helps avoid any future confusion or disputes between myself and the client.
Before I started my agency, I learned that as a freelancer you can't afford to embrace the "customer is always right" approach. Instead, you need to view customer dissatisfaction as your failure to communicate the scope of your services. If a client is being difficult in that they are asking for unreasonable revisions or extra work for free, you need to gently enforce that boundary instead of blindly accepting every demand. You learn to make these terms more explicit in your client agreements, and hopefully avoid these events in the future!
Dealing with a challenging client is an art that can leave both parties satisfied with the outcome if handled correctly. I have found that showing empathy and understanding towards the client is the most effective way to begin. I ask the client to explain their expectations in their own words and how they feel their expectations are not being met. After intently listening, I identify the actual problem, which is typically related to the quality of work, speed of completion or cost. I then determine which of these issues is most significant to the client. I reiterate my comprehension of their expectations to ensure they feel heard and understood. I acknowledge their concerns and explain the actions I'm taking to prevent these issues from happening again. I reassure them that their project is important, its a priority and that I am committed to not only meeting but exceeding their expectations.
The best method I have to handle a difficult client is to remain calm and ask them to identify and review expectations. They may have already done that or thought they've done that, but obviously, there is a misstep or miscommunication because they are being difficult. Sometimes, I repeat what they tell me differently to gain more insight. That could be asking a more detailed question or clarifying the request. The third step is to propose a solution to the problem that I can live with. That usually satisfies them because a difficult client typically doesn't come with a solution. They only have a complaint and they know they want it resolved. Once I propose a solution, they tend to calm down and are satisfied.
We've all been in this situation: your client has harsh words to share, or is being unreasonable about something. There's nothing to be gained by trying to be right. In situations where it'd be easy to react in the heat of the moment, I go for a two-step plan: sleep on it, and then kill them with kindness. This can de-escalate most tricky situations and often leads to a better long-term relationship with your client. After all a "difficult" client is generally a frustrated client who doesn't feel listened to.