One lesson many folks catch on to too late is the sheer power of being authentic. In a world brimming with social media facades and endless societal expectations, it’s easy to get sucked into trying to be what others want. When I first started in the art world, there was plenty of pressure to conform to certain styles or trends. I tried to fit my work within these boxes, but it never felt right. It wasn’t until I started embracing my unique style—those frenetic pen lines and dynamic water-based techniques—that I found real connection and success. In art and life, authenticity fosters deeper connections. People resonate with genuine expression because it’s relatable—it’s human. It’s like the murals I paint throughout Atlanta; they're not just about colors and shapes but about stories, emotions, and raw truths. That authenticity not only makes the artwork impactful but also sparks meaningful conversations within communities. So, don’t wait to be yourself—embrace it now and watch your world transform.
Future of Work Speaker, Writer, and Coach at Danielle Roberts Co., LLC
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You're allowed to pivot in your career as your values and priorities change. After spending over a decade working in the social media industry, I was burnt out, and thought I was a failure for not wanting to stick with it. I had previously wanted to climb the corporate ladder, but after losing my mom to cancer, I started to view work as a means to fund a more fulfilling life for myself, since our time on this earth is short. The truth is, your career evolves over decades. What you wanted when you chose a major in school may not be what you want in mid-life, and that's okay. Stay curious.
"Your reputation is built in decades, but can be torn down in minutes." I learned this from Warren Buffett and Charlie Munger while studying their lives. In business and life, your reputation is everything. It's sacred to how people think and talk about you to others, which can drastically impact how your life and business are impacted. I've been an entrepreneur for 15+ years now. I've met 100s of business owners, marketers, and investors over the years. I've worked hard to uphold a strong reputation with anyone I meet and I go out of my way to make sure each person feels appreciated for giving me their time. I'm on a lifelong mission to build a positive reputation and not ever let it flounder. I think most don't realize this until they're in their 30s, 40s, and 50s and a lot has been lost already. It's best to learn this lesson in your teens or 20s and carry it forward with the power of compounding.
Do the hard, but necessary things without delay. Life is full of challenges. When a problem arises in our marriage, our business, with our children, or with our family, it is natural to want to avoid it, but unattended problems do not go away. The most successful people I know see one of life's challenges and address it as soon as possible. No matter how hard you work or how much money you have, you will never have a conflict-free life. So the only choice you have is whether these inevitable conflicts will be small irritations or large tragedies. And the way you decide the scale of these conflicts is the speed with which you respond to them. And this wisdom doesn't just apply to interpersonal conflict, but it applies to things like going to the gym when you don't want to, or quickly admitting failure on a recent hire and firing them before things get worse. We all have a deep innate instinct that tells us when we're doing something we shouldn't be, and the more we listen to that and correct things quickly, the easier and more at peace our lives are.
One lesson that most people learn way too late in life is the importance of saying no. Saying no to people, things, jobs, and opportunities can be incredibly empowering. If you constantly make justifications for saying yes, those commitments will inevitably come back to haunt you. In my own experience, there was a period when I said yes to almost every opportunity that came my way, thinking it would lead to more success and growth. However, I soon found myself overwhelmed and stretched too thin, unable to give my best to any single endeavor. I realized that by saying yes to everything, I was actually compromising my ability to excel and truly enjoy what I was doing. One particular instance stands out: I was offered a consulting project that seemed lucrative but didn't align with my long-term goals. Initially, I justified accepting it, thinking it would be a good experience and add to my resume. However, the project turned out to be incredibly demanding, leaving me with little time for my core responsibilities at Rise. The stress and exhaustion it caused ultimately took a toll on my productivity and well-being. This experience taught me the value of setting boundaries and being selective about where I invest my time and energy. By saying no to things that don't align with my priorities, I've been able to focus more on what truly matters, leading to greater fulfillment and success. It's a tough lesson, but it’s essential for maintaining balance and ensuring that you're dedicating your time and energy to what truly aligns with your values and aspirations.
One lesson that many learn too late in life is that you don't have to wait until retirement to start living the life you want. I've personally witnessed this with my parents, who spent their whole lives postponing travel and fun for retirement. Unfortunately, when that time came, they didn't have the energy or health to travel long distances or enjoy many types of foods due to dietary restrictions. The lesson here is to enjoy life while also being deeply engaged in work you love. If there’s something you want to do, go for it now—don’t put off your happiness until retirement. You don’t just get what you want in life; you have to work for it. Building the life you desire isn't simple, but we always have choices. You’ll face challenges at every turn, and without your own voice or opinion, you might end up living according to someone else’s idea of what's true.
Most people learn way too late that their goals and aspirations are often shaped by external influences, not their true desires. We chase after societal expectations of success, prestige, or material possessions, only to realize later they don't bring fulfillment. This was a lesson I learned firsthand. Previously, I navigated life on autopilot, driven by the need for external validation. Achievements and recognition fueled my sense of worth. It wasn't until a personal experience of losing a partner to cancer that forced me to confront my own mortality. Facing the finality of life set me on a journey of self-discovery. This inward exploration stripped away societal expectations, revealing a deep need for authentic connection. The pursuit of a meaningful connection wasn't about self-serving validation; it was about building authentic relationships and fostering empathy. The more I understood my own struggles, the more I could relate to others who had walked similar paths. This shift from "me" to "we" was a powerful revelation. Empathy became a two-way street – truly understanding my own pain allowed me to connect with others on a deeper level. It turns out, living authentically wasn't just about finding myself; it was about building bridges to others. This experience taught me the critical importance of clarifying personal values. These core principles serve as a compass, guiding decisions and aligning them with what truly matters to you. When you understand your values, you can start to identify areas in life that need positive change. Are your career choices aligned with your values? Do your relationships offer the connection you crave? By regularly reflecting on your values, you can ensure your goals and actions are leading you towards a life of authenticity and fulfillment. Don't wait for a life-altering experience to force this introspection. Start building your internal compass today, and watch your life transform into a reflection of who you truly are.
When I was graduating college my mom gave me some of the best career advice I've ever received. She told me that every decade of your career should be treated differently. She explained: - Your 20's are for exploring. Don't try to define your career right away. Instead, go sample and taste as much as you can. Find out who you like to work with and how you like to work. - Your 30's are for developing. This is the time to make mistakes. Making mistakes means you're pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone. You're stretching and growing. - Your 40's are for earning. This is the time to build your nest egg so that it can compound over the next 20-30 years. Focus on getting paid fairly for the expertise you've built. It was incredibly helpful to know what I should focus on in each decade and, while my friends were busy having existential crises, I was busy tasting and enjoying my exploration.
As a psychologist, I've had the privilege of working with hundreds of clients over the years, and one of the most profound lessons I've learned is the value of imperfection. I used to think that perfection was the ultimate goal, and it was the key to happiness and fulfillment. But as I've witnessed my clients struggle with the pressure to be perfect, I've come to realize that imperfection is what makes life beautiful and meaningful. I've seen clients who were so focused on achieving perfection that they became consumed by anxiety, self-doubt, and burnout. But as they learned to embrace their imperfections, they began to experience a sense of freedom and authenticity that they had never experienced before. I have watched clients struggle with the fear of making mistakes, only to discover that it's okay not to be perfect. In fact, it's often our imperfections that make us more relatable and human. I've seen clients who were so afraid of being judged or rejected that they hid behind a mask of perfection, only to find that their imperfections were what made them most attractive. I have learned that imperfection is not a weakness, but a strength. It's what makes us unique and authentic, and it's what allows us to connect with others on a deeper level. I wish I had learned this lesson earlier in my career, but instead, I'm grateful for the opportunity to share this wisdom with my clients. Now, I strive to help my clients understand the value of imperfection and embrace their unique flaws and imperfections as a source of strength and beauty. I am Dr. Nick Bach, (Psy.D. - Doctorate of Psychology). As a Psychologist, I have been trained to help people solve those problems to have a better quality of life. I am a licensed clinical psychologist who has received both my Master of Arts in Psychology (M.A.) and Doctor of Psychology (Psy.D.) degrees from Spalding University in Louisville, KY. You can provide a link to my website: https://louisvillegracepsychological.com/
One lesson that most people learn way too late in life is the importance of self-care and setting boundaries. Many people believe that relentless hard work and constant hustle are the only paths to success, often neglecting their own well-being in the process. This approach can lead to burnout, stress, and a diminished quality of life. I learned this lesson firsthand during the early years of building Velvet Caviar. I was so focused on growing the business that I neglected my health and personal life. Long hours and constant stress became the norm, and it eventually took a toll on my well-being and creativity. It was only when I started prioritizing self-care—taking time for exercise, relaxation, and spending quality time with loved ones—that I found a sustainable balance. This change not only improved my personal health and happiness but also made me more effective and innovative in my work. Recognizing the value of self-care early on can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life. It’s crucial to understand that taking care of yourself is not a luxury but a necessity for long-term success and happiness.
The Value of Advocating for Yourself One lesson most people learn too late is the importance of advocating for themselves. Whether dealing with a personal injury or navigating a disability claim, many assume that the system will work in their favor if they simply wait. That's seldom the case. It's vital to actively participate in your journey. Speak up, ask questions, and make sure your voice is heard. In my years of practice, I've seen clients come to us after trying to handle things on their own, hoping things would just resolve. Many have been surprised at how much more we’re able to achieve once they start advocating for their rights. It’s crucial not to wait for someone else to step in for you. Taking the initiative can dramatically change the outcome, often faster and with less frustration. Advocating for yourself isn't just about fighting for what's right but also about recognizing your worth and believing in your own voice.
One lesson that many people learn too late in life is putting being able to put their fears aside and understanding the importance of taking calculated risks to pursue their passions and dreams. As a mental health provider, high school counselor and a successful private practice owner, I've seen individuals who have delayed making significant life changes or pursuing fulfilling careers due to fear of failure or societal expectations. Personally, I've learned that stepping outside of my comfort zone and taking strategic risks—such as starting my own practice—has been instrumental in achieving professional fulfillment and personal growth. Embracing uncertainty and learning from setbacks can lead to unexpected opportunities and a deeper sense of purpose. Encouraging clients and professional colleagues to assess risks thoughtfully and prioritize their own aspirations and then seeing their successes has truly been a rewarding aspect of my practice. Don't be afraid to take a calculated risk. Its never too late in life!
One lesson many people may learn too late in life is that it's never too late to learn a valuable skill! People often think that once they're out of school or settled in their careers, the opportunity to learn something new is gone. But that's simply not true. I learned Python well after college, as part of my career. At the time, I had no idea how much this would change my life. Learning Python enabled me to work with machine learning and AI, and even delve into fields like data engineering. It opened doors I never thought possible, first as an Product Manager of AI and Machine Learning, and now leading product and machine learning at my company, Innerverse. I'm passionate about sharing this lesson with others, especially those who may feel stuck in their careers or believe they've missed the chance to learn something new. It's never too late! There are countless resources available to learn new skills like programming, and the benefits of expanding your knowledge and skill set are invaluable. Never let the fear of being "too late" hold you back at any stage in life. You never know where it might lead!
My name is Liudas Kanapienis, and I have spent over 15 years in fintech and business development, currently serving as the CEO of Ondato. One lesson that most people learn too late in life is the importance of taking care of your mental health. In the pursuit of professional success, it’s easy to neglect mental well-being, thinking that relentless work and stress are simply part of the journey. However, ignoring mental health can lead to burnout, decreased productivity, and overall dissatisfaction. Early in my career, I believed that working longer hours and pushing through stress were signs of dedication and strength. I often sacrificed sleep, leisure, and time with loved ones, thinking that success required such sacrifices. It wasn’t until I faced severe burnout that I realized the cost of this approach. I found myself exhausted, less creative, and struggling to maintain the passion that drove me to start Ondato. The turning point came when I attended a seminar on mental health for entrepreneurs. Hearing other successful leaders share their struggles and the strategies they used to prioritize mental well-being was eye-opening. I started integrating regular breaks, mindfulness practices, and physical exercise into my routine. I also set boundaries to ensure I had time to unwind and recharge. ""Prioritizing mental health is crucial for sustainable success. It enhances creativity, productivity, and overall well-being, preventing burnout and fostering long-term passion for your work."" Since making mental health a priority, I’ve noticed a significant improvement in my work and personal life. I’m more focused, energetic, and able to approach challenges with a clear mind. This lesson has not only improved my quality of life but also positively impacted Ondato’s growth and success. Taking care of your mental health is not a sign of weakness, but a fundamental aspect of achieving and sustaining true success.
Climbing the corporate ladder is overrated. I know because I did it. I went to Princeton, and by age 25, I was in a management position earning six figures. I even worked for the International Space Station. But here's what I realized: Yes, I had a good salary, but I wasn't free. What matters a lot more than having a corner office or luxury apartment is being able to live life on your terms. And the good news is, you don't have to choose between living the life you want and earning a high income. I've been there. And today, I help others start successful businesses so they can make a difference, make great money, and choose how they spend their time. Ultimately, starting a business is one of the most effective ways to be free AND make the money you want.
Running a business requires sales, sales require outreach and follow up. It can be difficult, frustrating, and tiresome waiting on others to get back to you. Often you find yourself going down the rabbit hole of self doubt wondering if you've been rejected, whether they were interested or not, and why? What could you have done differently, and what went wrong? Without an answer or actual feedback to a sales pitch, how do you know? So, you press on. but how often do you press on? How many times do you follow up from that initial call or email? At what point are you harassing someone by inundating them with too many follow up calls and emails? I have found through time that pleasant persistence pays off. In my effort and gained experience to following up accordingly, not too often but often enough. That a surprising amount of times, in the end people will thank me for this. Because let's face it, people are busy. They may be very interested in what you have to offer, but people are easily distracted, and sometime they need a little help. After weeks, sometimes months of checking in, leaving messages, touching base. I've had business owners thank me, yes thank me for my patience with them and for making the effort to keep on their radar for as long as I did. Thank me for helping them to address a task they've been meaning to get around too. So the lesson here is to not over think things when waiting for a response from someone you've offered your services too. That until you actually hear or get a "no", there's hope, there's opportunity, there's possibility.
A lesson people learn too late in life is that authenticity, is the most potent energy and power that they have. We spend the first 10 years of our lives losing our authentic core, as we adopt the programming, patterns, wounding, and expectations of our primary caregivers. Because our brains aren't fully formed yet, and our brainwaves aren't fully developed, we're susceptible to influence and lose a lot of our authenticity as we get shaped by others. Over time, and throughout our lifetimes, we slowly start to untangle and unravel this programming to 'find ourselves'. Our true selves. And what science has shown, is that the most potent energy out there, more than love, or excitement, is the energy of authenticity. The more that we can lean into our authentic core, the stronger we become...and the more in alignment with our lives we find ourselves. This is where true success comes. Where our birthright to happiness, abundance, ease, flow, and joy comes. For me, this has come about in two ways. One from being engaged, first time, to the wrong person, and having to dig deep to connect with my authentic core as I realised I wasn't happy and eventually leaving them to find my now husband, 11 months later. With him, I feel free and unfettered to achieve my fullest potential, and I feel safe and fulfilled in doing so. It also came about in my business. The more that I started out by building a business with revenue in mind, following market trends, trying to do what I thought I 'should' be doing, the more burned out I became. As I learned to eventually lean into my authentic truth and get closer and closer to the edges of that, evolving my busines over time, the more I found myself getting into flow, better client results, more revenue, and more ease. Authenticity is the greatest power we have, and the sooner we can tap into it, the sooner we can transform our lives into the beautiful and enriching experiences we desereve them to be.
One important lesson that many people often discover too late in life is that achieving their dreams doesn't simply come with the passage of time. We tend to think something like, "In five years, I'll be successful or have accomplished XYZ." The real key to success and pursuing your dreams, or at least giving it a shot, lies in learning and building new skills - continuously. It means being open-minded, curious, and always ready to learn more. You need to embrace feedback and be adaptable. With this mindset, you're just a few skills away from making your dreams a reality, regardless of the number of years that have gone by. Personally, being in sales I find this to be particularly true. Unlike many other fields that require formal degrees, success in sales is often attained through a combination of continuous learning, personal interest, learning from successes and setbacks, professional development, networking, and on-the-job experience. By building skills in sales, you can e.g. achieve the dream of unlocking significant earning potential, which enables you to buy that dream house, provide for your family, invest, or even pursue the goal of financial independence and early retirement (FIRE).
One lesson many people learn too late is the importance of time. People often spend their younger years thinking they have endless amounts of it. They might put off things they want to do, thinking they can always do them later. However, as they get older, they realize how quickly time passes and how valuable it truly is. In my experience, I used to put off learning new skills, thinking I could always do it later. When I finally started, I realized how much more I could have learned if I had started earlier. It taught me to value my time more and use it wisely, focusing on things that matter most to me. This lesson can apply to various aspects of life, such as relationships, health, and personal growth.
Lifelong learning is one of those gems that I didn't focus on as much as I should have until later in life. It's all about constantly picking up new skills, insights, or perspectives. It's not just about racking up degrees or certifications; it's a mindset. Think about it this way: when you first learned to ride a bike, you didn’t just stop at the first push, did you? No way! You kept at it, learning how to turn, and then stop without toppling over. That's what lifelong learning in our personal and professional lives is like. For example, in the business landscape, if you're not learning, you're pretty much going backward. New platforms, strategies, and tools pop up all the time, and embracing these changes is what keeps you ahead of the curve. My moving company used to get all of our leads from referrals and newspaper ads. As the years went on we realized the importance of digital marketing and shifted our marketing strategy to focus on these new channels. If we had ignored this trend, we probably wouldn't be in business anymore. There is no replacement for practical experience. Learning some theory and taking courses is an ok start, but try and immediately put that information into action, and you're skills will skyrocket.