Nervous-System-Aware Fractional COO & Yoga Teacher Trainer at Alison Reaume
Answered 5 months ago
Dear Dr. Bharat Sangani and Yitzi Weiner. I would love the opportunity to be considered for the When Everything Changed: Lessons From Life's Turning Points series. At 28 years old, my life was forever changed when it was discovered that I had a football sized tumor in my abdomen.The surgery to remove it, didn't quite go as planned, when it was discovered to be connected to my aortic artery. 6 Hours later with a nicked artery, 3 blood transfusions and being told it was cancer (when it wasn't), my life was forever changed. Before this pivotal moment, I was following the path that society dictates, bought a condo, working 9-5 as an Executive Assistant and everything was great. When you are faced with your own mortality, everything changes. I began to ask deeper questions and to reevaluate my life. This was my turning point, that redirected the trajectory of my life. I left the security of my 9-5 to follow my heart by becoming a yoga teacher, then a yoga teacher trainer. I established my own business as a systems strategist supporting executives and entreprenuers in the wellness industry and travelled the word teaching others how to become yoga teachers. The lessons I took away from this experience, rest, resilience and redefining what success looks like, still impact every choice I make 17 years later. This wasn't just a surgery and health crisis, it gave me permission to follow my heart to design the life that I wanted. Alison Reaume
Co-Founder, Operations & Practice Manager at Grounded Light Counseling
Answered 6 months ago
For years, I thought the answer was to fix broken systems. I worked hard, cared deeply, overextended constantly, trying to improve workflows, communication, and team culture from within. But I eventually hit a wall: my body was exhausted, my boundaries were blurred, and my work no longer aligned with my values. The turning point came quietly—not in a crisis, but in the realization that I didn't want to keep building on someone else's foundation. I wanted to build something from my values, not just around them. That's when my husband and I began co-creating Grounded Light, our virtual counseling practice rooted in clarity, compassion, and intentional growth. One of my biggest lessons? Operational clarity is a form of care. When your systems reflect your values, your team thrives, and so do you. And when your work feels misaligned, your body always knows. You just have to learn to listen.
My "turning point" happened after experiencing and beginning the journey of recovery from profound loss. This taught me something crucial: healing is about feeling safe in your body again. This realization led me to graduate school where I studied Contemplative Psychotherapy and Buddhist Psychology, to better understand psychology from a holistic perspective. I went on to study body-centered therapy methods, EMDR, and ketamine-assisted therapy. I founded Sona Collective because I witnessed how many people, like myself, could intellectually grasp their trauma but still felt trapped in survival mode, because the therapy they engaged in was informed by a top-down talk-therapy approach. I knew there had to be a better and faster way to help people feel better. Now I help highly sensitive adults move from just surviving to actually thriving by working directly with their nervous systems rather than trying to think their way out of trauma.
My big turning point was learning about ADHD. I had a very chaotic life, being expelled from school, getting into lots of trouble with the law, in and out of work, etc... I didn't 'fit' into the system and didn't know why. Once I came to understand myself (and learning that I was not alone in my differences) I was able to start making some changes. Now I have a decent career, a wonderful family, and I'm in the middle of a PhD. The PhD is on the subject of ADHD, and my research shows that my story is actually quite a common one - with many people who were undiagnosed, struggling to fit in, and then being able to turn things around after realisation, diagnosis, treatment, and self-acceptance.
The moment everything changed for me came after a showcase, when a label executive delivered some blunt advice: "Pick one lane or the market will pick for you." I went home feeling gutted—but with sudden clarity. I realized I wasn't going to shrink myself to fit someone else's box. Instead, I'd build my own lane: creating music, hosting "Diva Talk Tonite," and growing my Tamz beret line under one unified ecosystem. That same week, I wrote my personal "operating system" on a single page and started moving as if I were my own label. This turning point taught me several invaluable lessons: First, prioritize permission over approval. I stopped waiting for gatekeepers and instead began shipping small projects and learning quickly from the results. Second, systems beat moods every time. I now run a weekly "Signals - Strategy - Sprint" ritual that transforms ideas into concrete actions. Third, focus on receipts over hype. I share my creative process along with real results, which builds trust that compounds over time. Fourth, community is the ultimate co-sign. Presales and co-creation now fund my growth while keeping me accountable to my audience. Finally, protect the instrument. I've learned that sleep, movement, and boundaries aren't just personal wellness—they're essential business strategy. Since embracing these principles, my wins feel fundamentally different. My show found a home on Tubi, merchandise drops fund my videos, and my team works from a clear playbook. The turning point wasn't about hustling harder—it was about finding quieter courage, choosing alignment, and treating that choice like a plan.
For me, the moment everything changed didn't come with one big victory or milestone; it came at rock bottom. After nearly a decade of building 2ULaundry and LaundroLab, I was worn down. At the same time, my personal life unraveled - my dad's cancer diagnosis, my wife's citizenship crisis, the sudden loss of my COO, and my own Achilles rupture. I hit a wall .. mentally, physically, emotionally. That season forced me to stop pretending I could carry everything on my shoulders. It made me realize success isn't about endurance alone, but about resilience, perspective, and leaning on others. That's when everything changed. My dad recovered, I healed, and I came back stronger; but with a new lens! Failure and hardship didn't define me; they refined me. They pushed me to build differently, with empathy and sustainability at the core. That moment of breaking down became the foundation for how I now approach business, leadership, and life.
My turning point came from exhaustion more than clarity, honestly. After years building businesses in recruiting, flooring, benefits, I had this growing sense that something was off. Not wrong, exactly, just off. I'd wake up feeling capable but not excited. The moment itself was probably when I caught myself drafting yet another business plan for a venture I felt lukewarm about. Third coffee talking, maybe, but I remember thinking, "What if I only did things I actually want to talk about at dinner parties?" Sounds trivial, but it shifted everything. I started asking what genuinely interested me: community building, creating experiences that bring people together, the intersection of marketing and human connection. That questioning process eventually led to We & Goliath. Turning points don't always announce themselves loudly. Sometimes they're just a nagging feeling you finally decide to listen to.
My turning point came during a period when I was running on pure ambition, building AIScreen and chasing every milestone without ever stopping to breathe. The business was growing, but I was burning out—physically, mentally, and emotionally. One night, I was in the office alone, staring at our digital signage dashboard, watching numbers climb while feeling completely detached from them. That quiet moment of clarity hit me harder than any crisis: success without peace wasn't success at all. I started reevaluating everything—how I worked, what I prioritized, and who I showed up for. I built boundaries around rest, reconnected with purpose, and redefined growth to include fulfillment, not just revenue. That shift transformed my leadership, my health, and my relationships. The biggest lesson I learned is that turning points don't always arrive with chaos—sometimes, they come in silence, asking if you're truly living the life you've built.
The Moment Everything Changed: When a Minor Business Model Change Transformed Failure into Fortune My turning point came through what seemed like a final desperate attempt to salvage years of failure. As CEO of DataNumen, I often reflect on how close I came to abandoning my entrepreneurial dreams entirely. During my Master's studies at Zhejiang University, I was inspired by a story about someone making money selling shareware online. This motivated me to develop software, convinced that technical excellence would guarantee success. My first two products—UniView and DLL to Lib—both failed miserably despite my technical efforts. My third attempt was Advanced Zip Repair, inspired by downloading a massive ZIP file that wouldn't open but was mostly recoverable. Advanced Zip Repair was even worse. In six months, I sold exactly three copies. I was ready to give up, convinced I would starve trying to make money through software development. Before abandoning everything, I made one small modification to the business model—not the software, but how I approached the market. I can barely remember what I changed; it seemed insignificant. The results were miraculous. Sales exploded to over $600 that month. By graduation, I had steady monthly income exceeding $2,000. A string of failures transformed overnight into sustainable business. This taught me the most valuable lesson: the market has invisible power that technical excellence alone cannot match. Sometimes success isn't about working harder—it's about understanding what the market truly wants. That unexpected success became DataNumen's foundation, setting us on a path balancing market understanding with technical innovation. We've grown into a leading data recovery company, but I never forget how close we came to never existing. The turning point changed how I view failure and persistence. What seemed like three failures were actually essential learning experiences. Sometimes the most profound changes come from the smallest adjustments made when you're most ready to give up.
Upon returning from Afghanistan in 2009, having served in the British Army, I found myself changed. I found myself looking at the world with a new lens, looking at life with more purpose, and the impact of my efforts as more of a mission rather than purely transactional. That jolt of change and perspective change still powers me today. There are epochs in our lives, and times of immense impact that lead to change, that was one of the first for me. From that turning point, it directed me to pour my efforts into things that drive lasting change, leaving the world better for having had me working within it. That doesn't necessarily mean lofty irrelevant tasks and roles, quite the opposite, it forced me to see the value and outcome of good, honest work in all areas of my professional life and personal. It pushes me to want to know that with the time I have been gifted, I am making it valuable.
From the perspective of a mental health expert, life's turning points, whether they be loss, achievement, trauma, or unexpected opportunity, often mark the moment that everything changes. These moments can feel destabilizing at first and can introduce a sense of certainty and loss of control. Yet, these moments also open a door to profound growth by forcing individuals to reevaluate priorities, values, and identity. In therapy, I often see that what clients initially perceive as a breakdown can transform into a breakthrough with time and support. A key lesson from these turning points is that resilience is not about bouncing back to who we were before but is about rebuilding ourselves in a new way. Change teaches us flexibility, patience, and the importance of self-compassion. It also highlights the value of support systems because turning points rarely need to be faced alone. Ultimately, these turning point moments remind us that growth comes disguised as discomfort. When embraced with openness, this discomfort can reshape our lives in ways we never anticipated, helping us move forward with deeper self-awareness and a renewed sense of purpose.
The moment everything changed for me came when I transitioned from being a solo consultant to leading a mid-sized firm with more than 40 employees. Up until that point, I had built my career around personal expertise—writing, advising, and guiding clients directly. But suddenly, I was responsible not just for my own output, but for the livelihoods, growth, and well-being of an entire team. The turning point wasn't dramatic—it was a quiet realization during a late night at the office. I was reviewing client deliverables and simultaneously fielding questions from my team, and it struck me: my role was no longer about doing the work myself, but about creating systems, culture, and clarity so others could thrive. That shift forced me to reexamine my priorities. Success was no longer measured by how much I personally produced, but by how effectively I empowered others. The lesson I carry forward is that growth often requires letting go of control. True leadership is about trust, delegation, and building frameworks that outlast you. It also redefined happiness for me: I found more fulfillment in seeing others succeed under my guidance than in any individual achievement. That moment of clarity reshaped not only my career but also how I approach parenting, travel, and personal growth. It taught me that turning points don't always arrive with fanfare—they often come in the form of responsibility, and the courage to embrace it.
The moment everything changed started when I was consulting for a traditional insurance broker and noticed... a fax machine. I asked why, and learned that issuing a policy still meant piles of paperwork, manual processes, and an aging sales force. Deals were getting lost because customers didn't want to wait or fill forms. That was the spark: this industry is antiquated; technology and customer experience could be our edge. My biggest turning point came when I left a well-paid UX consulting career for major Panamanian companies to go all-in on building Eprezto. I was comfortable and earning good money, but I felt empty. I tried working on Eprezto part-time, then realized it needed my full attention. Walking away from a steady salary was terrifying, I lived off savings for a year, but it was the most defining period of my career. We focused on removing friction and designing for trust, and later built an AI-driven remote car inspection so full-coverage policies could be sold entirely online, something people said couldn't be done in our region. Eprezto became the first 100% digital insurance broker in Central America. The lesson: if you truly want something to work, you must commit fully. You can't do it halfway. That leap, born from a fax machine and a broken process, taught me that meaningful progress requires risk and sacrifice, and it's been the most fulfilling decision of my life.