Marketing Director | Co-Founder | Creative Strategist & Podcast Host at The Multi-Passionate Pathway
Answered 3 months ago
I don't think I went off track with my life purpose so much as I got knocked sideways by a very bitter divorce. Everything familiar fell apart at once. My identity, my sense of safety, my future. It was disorienting in a way you can't really explain unless you've lived it. What helped me find my way back wasn't a single breakthrough moment. It was community. Being in rooms with other women who had been through similar experiences mattered more than any advice ever could. There's something grounding about being seen without having to explain yourself. At the same time, I returned to practices that brought me back into my body. Yoga and meditation weren't about self improvement. They became a safe and healthy space where I could slow down, listen, and rebuild trust with myself. That clarity didn't arrive all at once. It came quietly, breath by breath. The biggest lesson I learned is that purpose doesn't always reveal itself through action. Sometimes it shows up through stillness. Through choosing environments and relationships that support who you're becoming, not who you were trying to survive as. If you're going through something equally disorienting, my advice is this: don't rush the meaning making. Find community before you find answers. Create space before you chase direction. Purpose has a way of finding you again once you feel safe enough to hear it.
I hit rock bottom in my mid-twenties when a business venture I poured everything into completely collapsed. I lost money, credibility, and honestly, my sense of direction. The biggest thing that helped me find myself again wasn't some grand epiphany - it was getting radically honest about what I actually enjoyed doing versus what I thought I should be doing. During that low point, I started paying attention to the moments when I felt energized rather than drained. I noticed I lit up when solving complex operational problems, when I was connecting people who needed each other, when I was building systems that actually worked. Those weren't the sexy, headline-grabbing parts of business - they were the nuts and bolts. But they were my nuts and bolts. My advice to anyone going through something disorienting: stop trying to find your old self. That version of you existed in different circumstances with different information. Instead, get curious about what problems you can't stop thinking about, even when you're exhausted. For me, it was the inefficiency I saw everywhere in logistics and fulfillment. E-commerce brands were struggling to find reliable warehouses, and great 3PLs were struggling to find clients. That friction bothered me daily. I started Fulfill.com not from a place of confidence, but from a place of obsession with solving that specific problem. Purpose isn't something you discover in a moment of clarity - it's something you build by consistently showing up for work that matters to you, even when you're scared or uncertain. The most important shift was moving from "What will make me successful?" to "What problem am I uniquely positioned to solve?" When I focused on creating value for others - helping brands scale their operations, helping warehouses grow their business - my own path became clearer. Here's what I tell founders I work with who are struggling: your purpose lives at the intersection of what you're good at, what the market needs, and what you can't stop caring about. Find that intersection, and the disorientation starts to fade. You don't need all the answers. You just need to take the next right step, then the next one. That's how I built my way back, and that's how I've watched hundreds of entrepreneurs find their footing too.