Seeking Men’s Dating Coaches/Men’s Sex and Relationship Therapists Reporter for SW Newsmagazine, writing a feature story about how to pick up a woman—and keep her. Want to cast a wider net, and discuss issues affecting men in society right now that are impacting their social and dating lives, so knowledge on those topics would be especially useful. Thank you! Looking forward to hearing from you!

I'm Treva Brandon Scharf, ICF-certified life/dating coach. Most of my clientele is male, so I'm quite aware of their issues and challenges in the current dating culture. The question is: How do you pick up a woman without looking like a creep? How do you approach someone IRL and stay mindful of boundaries? How does a guy make the first move without triggering #MeToo trauma? It can be done, but it requires respect, tact, awareness, and humility. Those qualities aren't only highly attractive (and effective in picking up women), they're reflective of the quality of the guy, and the kind of boyfriend he'll be. If you're a guy, you don't just want to pick up on a woman, you want to keep her, and this is how you do it. Approach with sincerity, be your authentic self, be prepared for rejection, and take your best shot.

Hi Scopeweekly, My name is Meg and I'm the founder of Banana Passion, an Australian-owned, women-led intimate wellness brand. I'd love to contribute a feature article from a woman's perspective on "How to Pick Up a Woman and Keep Her," drawing on my experience around relationships, intimacy and emotional readiness. In this post-#MeToo era, dating apps haven't actually made things easier for men. A lot of guys are scared to approach because the signals feel confusing, unlike the old "handkerchief" days when interest was clearer. Now women often have to be very direct, and even then some men still miss the hints. Before I even get to how to build a long-lasting relationship, there are a few important questions men need to ask themselves: 1) Am I emotionally ready? 2) Would I date myself right now? 3) Do I know what I actually want? From there, I'd expand on a few key themes: Preparing Yourself Emotionally A real relationship needs emotional investment: time, vulnerability and presence (even small things like respecting her space and making room for someone in your life and home). If you haven't really moved on from past hurt, you're not in a position to show up fully for someone new. Becoming Your Ideal Self Start by being someone you'd genuinely want to date. That might mean upgrading how you show up, including how you dress - "I'm not into fashion" isn't a great excuse when women do notice effort. Also, be intentional about where you look for a partner. If you want a woman who's into fitness and the gym, that's where you should start showing up and connecting, not hoping to find her in a random pottery class or nightclub. Knowing who you're interested in helps you step out of your comfort zone in the right direction. Building a Lasting Connection Skip the cheesy pickup lines and try-hard jokes that make things awkward. Listening goes a long way - most of the time, women just want to feel heard. It's fine to prioritise career, gym and mates, but if you say you want a relationship, it has to actually have a place on that list too. This piece would touch on the bigger social pressures men are facing while giving practical, grounded steps they can take to attract - and actually keep - a partner. I'm happy to adapt the angle or structure if you're interested. Also, could you please let me know if my article would be published with my website and links included? I'm also available for quotes if that's helpful. Best, Meg Founder, Banana Passion