I spent years in the pediatric ward as a physician assistant, and over that time, I realized all new parents have one thing in common: Self-consciousness. This online age means new mothers and fathers are absolutely inundated with best practices. Everything from holding a newborn to latching has been discussed and overanalyzed until a kind of decision paralysis sets in. So afraid of taking the wrong step, parents hesitate to do anything publicly for fear of repudiation or critique. But when the nurses and I stepped out of the room, I noticed that instincts took over and comfort returned. I started saying "I'm not here!" and "No one's watching!" every time I walked in the room, and while it always got a laugh, the advice is serious and sound. No one is judging you, and to be honest, most people looking your way are only sharing in your joy (or commiserating with your struggle). New parents should feel free to try out different strategies and follow their gut. Guide books and online communities can provide good recommendations, but there is something to be said for figuring out your child's unique preferences through trial and error. After all, no two babies are exactly the same.