HiI’m looking to speak with people who have been divorced in two different stages of their lives: ideally in their 20s early 30s and then in midlife or later. These divorces should be separated by at least a decade for you to qualify as a source. I want to hear about the differences between each experience and can 100% protect your anonymity. It's part of a package we are doing at New York Magazine on midlife divorce. Excited to speak with you!

Subject: Source — Divorced twice (40 & 51), now in long-term relationship — can speak on differences + no need for anonymity Hi — I meet your criteria and would be glad to speak with you about my experience in the differences between divorces at the different life stages. Quick facts (qualifies you asked for): First divorce: age 40, after 22 years together. Second divorce: 11 years later (early 50s). Current relationship: 16 years and going strong. Location / timezone: based in Red Deer, Alberta (America/Edmonton). Who I am: Rick Martin — founder of The Human Physics Group and RLT Marriage Counselling. I'm a Relational Life Therapy (RLT) specialist with 25+ years of behavioural training and couples work. I combine trauma-informed, somatic, and practical repair approaches in both my personal life and clinical practice. What I can offer for your piece: Firsthand lived experience of two divorces separated by more than a decade, and long-term re-partnering thereafter. Comparative insight into how ending a long relationship at midlife differs from an earlier-life split (emotional landscape, identity shifts, decision-making, risk tolerance, stigma, social supports). Practical reflections on dating and re-partnering later in life and what made my subsequent relationship more sustainable. How therapy, somatic work, and clarity about values and boundaries affected healing and future relationship choices. Professional context where helpful — distinguishing clinical observations from my personal story. Willing to discuss via phone, Zoom, or email. I'm available for interviews and can provide short written answers if that's easier. Thanks — I'd welcome the chance to contribute to this midlife divorce package. — Rick Martin Side note for your consideration: The following is from an article I am currently working on: How Search Engines Are Destroying Marriages (And Making Lawyers Rich) "Here's what Google won't tell you: search engines rank marriage counsellors based on website strength and reviews—not whether they can actually save relationships. However, here's the big problem: those good reviews usually come from individual therapy, not couples work. A general therapist with great individual therapy reviews will always rank higher than a couples specialist in Google results. The search engine can't tell the difference between individual therapy skills and relationship skills." https://claude.ai/public/artifacts/2b24ea7b-15c4-4d69-a95a-80e279a9def9