I work with couples who are going through divorce, well usually one side of the couple, and the boundary that needs to be set after separation is the social media boundary. Unfollow all of your ex's accounts and block them from seeing your own posts. Stalking them on social is not the way to move forward and create the new life that you want after divorce. As for posting about your separation and divorce on social, that's fair game, but keep it to your experience and don't shame or name your ex. That's childish and the opposite of how you want to appear - credible and moving forward.
Founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching at Growing Self Counseling & Coaching
Answered 2 years ago
The ability to set clear and healthy boundaries is a foundational skill of every healthy relationship. Getting clear about your own limits will help you not just communicate them, but avoid getting into power struggles and conflicts. For example, if it's important for you to get places on time and your partner is chronically late, you might set a boundary letting them know that you'll be getting to an event on time and in order to do that leaving at 4. Then get in the car and leave at 4, with or without them. You'll have maintained your boundaries, avoided a power struggle, and not gotten into a conflict. You're doing you and allowing them to operate in their own way, due to your boundaries. I hope that example is helpful to your readers! All the best, Lisa Marie Bobby
Boundary work has helped many couples build a deeper connection with themselves and each other. When you set boundaries with someone you love you are creating a deeper level of acceptance in your relationship. You’re saying this is who I am and what I need. When the other person respects those boundaries, it communicates acceptance and understanding. It can lead to feeling safe, loved, and seen. When someone respects your boundaries, you’re trust in them grows. When people trust their partners they are more likely to be vulnerable and share their intimate feelings. This intern too, builds a deeper connection.
I've seen firsthand how setting healthy boundaries can transform couples' relationships. One of my couple clients was always complaining and having issues with each other's demands. Through my sessions with them, I helped them to work on establishing clear boundaries around their time, finances, and personal space. I explained why they needed to learn to say no to requests when they needed time for themselves, and how each of them should understand the importance of respecting their boundaries. This simple yet powerful approach enables them to feel more in control, reduce resentment, and focus on the positive aspects of their relationship. By setting these boundaries, they were able to reignite the spark in their marriage and communicate more effectively.
One couple I worked with faced a lot of stress from their work-life overlap, which was causing frequent conflicts. By setting clear boundaries—such as designated work hours and specific “couple time” each week—they managed to separate their professional issues from their personal life. This strategy allowed them to reclaim their personal time, reduce stress, and reconnect more deeply. The boundaries helped them improve communication and strengthen their relationship, showing how important it is to have clear limits for a healthier, more balanced partnership.