I've spent 30+ years working with people in crisis--homelessness, mental health challenges, substance abuse recovery. The one lesson I wish I'd learned earlier is that your body's needs don't disappear just because life gets hard. At LifeSTEPS, we serve over 100,000 residents, and I've watched women prioritize literally everything else while ignoring their own physical well-being. One woman told me she spent 15 years thinking decreased desire was just "part of getting older" until a routine health screening revealed a treatable thyroid condition. Her regret wasn't about the condition itself--it was about the decade she lost because she never asked her doctor the direct question. The clients who maintain that 98.3% housing retention rate? They're the ones who learned to treat their physical health as seriously as their housing stability. They schedule annual checkups and actually bring up uncomfortable topics with their providers instead of waiting for someone to ask.
I'm not a woman 50+, so I won't pretend to speak as one. But my mom is. And this is something she actually said to me in her mid 50s that changed how I understood adult relationships in general, and it hit me harder than any business book. She told me the lesson she wished she learned earlier was that sex isn't a scoreboard. It's supposed to be connection. She said so many women spend decades performing instead of actually feeling. When she finally stopped doing that, she said her confidence in business even shifted. It made me think about how I built SourcingXpro when we positioned as the "China office" for clients with 5% commission. Real connection compounds. Performanes do not.