As an expert on body-positive intimacy, what is one specific sex position you would recommend for plus-size individuals, and why do you consider it particularly comfortable or beneficial?

ANY position that makes a person feel fabulous, safe, comfortable, and deeply in their pleasure! When we start assigning specific positions to specific bodies, it can create unnecessary division and pull us out of our experience and into our heads. That only creates tension and insecurity. Great sex is about being in your body--tuned into what feels good and trusting your inner wisdom. So my invitation is this: explore what positions, strokes, or movements truly light you up. That's where the magic lives.

The side-lying (spooning) position has consistently been one of the most comfortable and affirming options I've recommended--and personally leaned on--through years of navigating intimacy in a larger body. After having four kids and adapting to countless body shifts over time, this position allowed me to reconnect with my partner in ways that felt physically relaxed and emotionally grounded. What makes it work so well is the even weight distribution. There's no pressure to hold yourself up or worry about balancing on sore wrists or knees. I've used pillows under my hips or between the legs to adjust angles, especially postpartum or during moments when my joints needed extra support. It also helped me feel more present and less self-conscious, since it's a position that doesn't spotlight parts of the body I've felt sensitive about. Spooning is also incredibly intimate. Whether facing each other or cuddled from behind, it naturally invites touch, conversation, and closeness. I've found it especially valuable during times when I didn't feel very "sexy," but still wanted to feel close and connected without the performance pressure that other positions sometimes bring. It's a low-impact, flexible choice that supports comfort, connection, and confidence--especially for plus-size partners or those navigating body changes.